I recently saw an article with three signs that you are unhappy. So I read it.
The first one listed is you are negative.
Oh, I have to agree. Negative people aren’t really happy.
Nothing is ever right. Nothing ever goes their way. The glass is always half empty, a rain storm is always going to flood, and a little wind is going to turn into a tornado and blow the house away.
Negativity looks to make more negativity. Negative people aren’t happy and don’t want anyone else to be happy.
The second sign is ungratefulness.
People that aren’t grateful are not happy. You get them a gift and it’s the wrong color, wrong style, or not the exact one they wanted. Whatever happened to the saying that it’s not the gift but the thought that counts?
They aren’t grateful for the gift.
It seems to me that ungratefulness and negativity are in together on this on making someone an unhappy person.
The third sign is living in the past.
I know people that have done this and I’ve told Linda I don’t want to be like them – always dredging up the problems of the past.
The couple I think about were always talking about church problems that happened 10 years before I arrived on the scene. That happened for the 20 years I knew them.
The past is the past and cannot be changed! All you have to change is today and the future. People that live in the past are not happy because of the past and can never really live in the present.
Now many of the people that exhibit these three signs identify themselves as Christian, yet how can you be so unhappy as a Christian.
Psalm 144 talks about those who trust in God and look to Him for every blessing. It ends with,
Happy are the people who are in such a state; Happy are the people whose God is the Lord! Ps 144:15
While the Bible does not use the word “negative” it does say something about positive thinking.
Finally, brethren, whatever things are true, whatever things are noble, whatever things are just, whatever things are pure, whatever things are lovely, whatever things are of good report, if there is any virtue and if there is anything praiseworthy — meditate on these things. Phil 4:8
It’s quite clear you are to think and meditate about the good things – not the negative.
Finally if you are a Christian it’s time to forget the past. The very nature of Christ’s redemption is the forgiving and forgetting of the past.
The Bible says,
Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation; old things have passed away; behold, all things have become new. 2 Cor 5:17
If you live according to the Bible you will be a happy person – a positive, grateful person that lives for today to change the future.