Then the Lord said to Cain, “Where is Abel your brother?”
He said, “I do not know. Am I my brother’s keeper?” Gen 4:9
Raised in the exact same environment, Cain desired to farm and Abel a rancher.
Both believed in God and brought their offering. Heb 11:4 says, by faith Abel offered to God a more excellent sacrifice than Cain.
Either Cain could not handle the rejection or, in his mind, being bested by his brother. At any rate, he killed him.
Again, God already knew this but asked Cain a question similar to one asked of his dad.
Cain’s response is classic. It is a response given by so many today.
I know he said, “Am I my brother’s keeper?” yet I see a touch of attitude seen in people today.
For me Cain is saying, “I don’t know where he is! If you can’t find him, then it’s his own fault for wandering off somewhere!”
Several years ago a young man worked at Walmart. He consistently arrived at work late – almost every day, in fact. Management fired him. He was genuinely shocked and could not comprehend why it happened.
He told me firing him for being late was their fault!
When asked why he was late every day his answers placed blame on slow drivers, weather, road conditions, nothing to wear, alarm clock malfunctioned, having to stop and buy cigarettes, and so on and so on. Many of these things also affected his coworkers, who did manage to get to work on time!
Cain, like Adam, was responsible for his own actions. I’m sure Cain blamed Abel for offering a sacrifice that God wanted. Remember his dad blamed his mom for offering the forbidden fruit to him.
You are responsible for your actions. If you hate someone for doing something bad to you, then they are responsible for their sin against you but you are responsible for forgiving them.
I did not say it’s easy at times.
Imagine if Cain had told God, “I killed him. Please forgive me and help me with my anger and sorrow!”
Better yet if he had said, “God, please show me how to please you with my next sacrifice!”