These are the sons who were born to David in Hebron:
The oldest was Amnon, whose mother was Ahinoam from Jezreel.
The second was Daniel, whose mother was Abigail, the widow of Nabal from Carmel.
The third was Absalom, whose mother was Maacah, the daughter of Talmai, king of Geshur.
The fourth was Adonijah, whose mother was Haggith.
The fifth was Shephatiah, whose mother was Abital.
The sixth was Ithream, whose mother was Eglah, David’s wife.
These sons were all born to David in Hebron. 2 Sam 3:2-5
Sometimes I wonder how things would have turned out if this had been done or that had been done.
I know there are some things I would love to change but cannot. And if I could go back and change then it would change who and what I am today.
King David’s life is riddled with problems but I think they start earlier than the Bathsheba-era.
David’s son Absalom had a beautiful sister named Tamar. And Amnon, her half brother, fell desperately in love with her. Amnon became so obsessed with Tamar that he became ill. She was a virgin, and Amnon thought he could never have her. 2 Sam 13:1-2
Amnon violated Tamar.
Abasalom killed Amnon.
Abasalom took the kingdom from David.
David got the kingdom back.
David’s head General, Joab, kills Absalom, against orders!
Now most of these things happened after the Bathsheba incident; but where does it all begin.
David did not live as a Godly man early on.
Look at the list of his children, each born from a different mom.
Do you think each child saw their father love his mom? Not with that many to divide his time with!
That leaves each child to be raised by a woman that could be bitter within this marriage relationship. Each mom could be seeking the best for her child at the expense of the others.
Add to this the lack of real stability in the home since David had to move around place to place to avoid King Saul, while Saul was living.
Then you let each child see their dad covet and commit adultery, lie, steal, murder, disrespect his family, and disrespect the Law of God.
Compare this to what you see in today’s family.
I know a young woman that has three children by three different men. The only one she married (and divorced) was the first man. Her children have no stability from their mom and they must live with their grandparents.
This is not an isolated incident. I see many grandparents raising the grandchildren.
Many young men and women today are going from partner to partner and never, much like David having many wives.
The children don’t see their mom or themselves being loved and cared for.
This generational curse has to be broken or the family and country will not survive.
Today’s men need to be kingdom men – led and leading by the Holy Spirit. They need to be more interested in serving God, loving their wife, and raising their children above all other matters; that includes working long hours and trying to make a lot of money.
Time with family is more important that a stack of Franklin’s. Ben cannot raise your family or lead them to Christ.
That is up to YOU!